Later Haters

Dear Haters,

You'll never break me.


"When someone is cruel or acts like a bully, you don't stoop to their level. No, our motto is, when they go low, we go high." - Michelle Obama

This is one of my favorite quotes. It reminds me that even though I've been bullied and might've had a little break down, I AM NOT BROKEN. I keep my head up, no matter how hard I put a smile on my face and rise above. 

Online bullying is SO real. Whether unintentional or driven by malice, words hurt. I experienced my fair sharing of “bullying” as a teen but the fact that I’m in my late twenties still being affect by bullying is beyond ridiculous. When I was in high school MySpace was all the rage. At my high school there was an anonymous MySpace page that every Thursday blasted out some sort of hurtful gossip about the students. My high school invented “Gossip Girl.” Unfortunately, I was targeted by these gossip blast more than once. It hurt then and it still hurts now. I went through a period in middle school and high school where because I was hurting so much, I ended up hurting myself. Even though the scars have faded, I am still so affected by it.

Recently, I’ve gotten some mean and hurtful comments using some choice language on my blog. The thing that really hurt me about this was that a person disliked me so much that they went to my blog (something I work so hard on) to shame me. After this I took a little break from social media and came back and got back to work. I had done a mini story series (right after it happened) explaining what had happened to my audience and I wanted to say thank you because I received an onslaught of supportive and loving messages from you guys. I don’t think there is a right or wrong way to go about blogging. I think the people that do blog do it because they love sharing a piece of themselves with you and hope that we are someone that you can relate to. There's no right or wrong way to blog and to tell me I suck at this or call me names is completely uncalled for. This is what sparked the idea for me to start my #LettersFromJen series. I took something beyond negative and turned it into something that hopefully helps others.

One of the messages that I got left on my blog was along the lines of me being ugly without makeup. This is why I thought it was so important to take part in the #SHEunites Instagram campaign. The content I created shows two sides of me. The naturally beautiful, no make up me and the creative, makeup loving beautiful me. Both sides are beautiful and both sides are me. I don't love one more or less. Yes I have pimples, scars, discoloration, dark circles and freckles but that's what makes me unique... that's what makes me, ME!

After this online bullying and shaming started, I was thinking about how I am 28 years old and this really affected me. I can’t imagine being a teenager trying to navigate my way while being shamed and ridiculed online. Kids these days have it so much worse than those my age ever did. But I was reminded by some of the most wonderful people in my life and my amazing audience that I am a smart, driven and hardworking person and the person who bullied me doesn’t even know me and is an absolute coward. Know your worth, know you are special, know you are beautiful and that you have people who will always support you. Those are the people who love you.

So to those cowards who spend their days tearing others down… Later haters.